Acts of Love
The word love is a problem for almost everyone to define. Yes, it is easy to say and it rolls off the tongue easily yet many of us have yet to really know what it means. I wholeheartedly believe that people don’t really know what love is or what it looks like, so when I hear people say things like, “you don’t act like you love me” or “you don’t act like you care” it makes me think that really, the person uttering the statement doesn’t really know what love looks like.
I was that person once. I didn’t know what love looked like, so I was easily duped by people who insisted with words that they loved me or manipulated my perception of their actions to make me think those were actions of love. I’d like to think that now I know better. I know the signs of love and even though at times they’re hard to express yet you can see through the bs. I know what things make people feel good to be in a relationship with me so when I see those things being done by the person I am involved with I know that these are acts of love. Even sometimes there are things that don’t feel good but there is no doubt that those are acts of love, not romantic love but of a greater love that exists beyond self and ego.
I do try to replicate those actions myself and I am learning how to do so more and more every day. Not just in an expression of love for this other person but also I am constantly and consistently acting as though I love myself. Which means my wardrobe choices have improved, my food choices, my friend choices, my social-time choices, my television choices, my conversation choices, my financial choices, my religious choices, my work choices, my devotional choices. All of my choices have to reflect love, not just romantic love but a greater love. Love of self and love of my mate.
Sometimes this requires discipline and steadfastness – no, MOST of the time this requires discipline and steadfastness. It requires making difficult choices that will not always be popular. It requires forcing oneself to do things that are uncomfortable. It requires sacrifices and compromises. And it requires that all of those things are given and done willingly, out of love, not begrudgingly. Yes it should all be approached with a sense of duty but that doesn’t mean it should seem as though it is a chore. There is no reason why I shouldn’t absolutely and ultimately love to act righteously all of the time.
The person I’m in love with should act with love towards me every single day without fail. So even if she was to never utter those words yet base on her actions love should be manifested. I recalled a recent relationship where this female claimed to have loved me yet it was hard to really accept that because I knew this person was deep into playing games. So why would I respect this person when everything about her was a game and I knew that she had no clue what love is? I question all of that because I am at the point where I know what love really looks like.
I have a couple of people who have been there for me through thick and thin. I definitely want you guys to know that i am grateful for everything. Thanks for believing in me and my projects.
It really is true that you can’t love another person until you love yourself, because if your actions are not expressing your love for self then how can you be sure that your actions are expressing love for someone else? If you don’t even know what love is really supposed to look like you will never know how to interpret the other person’s actions or inactions. If you are not acting out of love for you then you will not want to sacrifice and compromise and be disciplined and steadfast for someone else. And without those things there are no actions that are really being done out of love.