A friend I will be
A wise person once said that hindsight is 20/20. That’s true in many instances including the end of a potential relationship. I am sure many of you have been attracted to this one particular dude/dudette and in the end she/he decided that you weren’t worth the time or maybe he/she felt too much of a “friendship connection” with you to mess it all up? A few years back I found myself in a similar situation and though it was hard to accept yet I needed to have her around so I obliged to her request.
It isn’t easy trying to be friends with a woman you are still attracted to or want to be with. However, it may be a blessing in disguise to befriend this person and understand him/her on a totally new level. At first, it’s easy to let your feelings guide you into not considering the idea but rest assure that once everything calms down you will feel a lot more comfortable with the person. There is such a stark difference in the definition of a simple friend and a girlfriend that you may not feel you can emotionally handle seeing the woman you want in this context. You have to refrain from expressing how you feel; there’ll be no kissing on holding hands. However you should feel privileged that she has allowed you to remain in her life and that to me should be appreciated.
I’m a believer that when two people feel something for one another, things happen naturally. Forcing a situation to happen can get awkward – especially when the two contenders in the romantic ring are friends. The last thing you want to do is ruin your friendship. So continue to spend time with him/her and keep building your already great relationship. Things will happen when least expected; that’s if they’re meant to be.
Just continue to be there for him/her as much as you can and it’s ok to love that person regardless of how he/she feels about you. Just continue to be yourself and remain positive. Not everything you deem good for you is destined to be for you…accept whatever comes of it and make the best of it. At least I did. J